No one really knows what really goes on inside of a marriage except the people involved. But when it comes to celebrities a lot of assumptions are made by the public about whether there should be a relationship at all. Chalk it up to the cost of living in a fishbowl—I wouldn’t want to do it. Such is the case in the union and breakup of Usher and Tameka Raymond.
Their relationship seemed to be doomed from the start. (The fact that she left her husband and children, the messy break from his mother/manager, and the cancellation of first wedding ceremony were like writing on the wall to some). Plus rumors of the shaky nature of their marriage were a constant companion even when there was no drama. But these same rumors were also cited as the reason the sister went to Brazil for plastic surgery and suffered a life-threatening health scare as a result. Look all that speculation can’t be easy. But now that Usher filed for divorce last month the dissolution of their marriage seems to as public as everything else. (Of course people say that they knew it was coming once he reconciled with his Mama.) Yikes.
Yesterday, Tameka Raymond’s lawyer filed papers that essentially said that she was surprised by the turn of events—especially since she claims that the couple had sex not even a week before the the R&B singer filed for divorce. (I’m assuming that’s what she means by ‘intimately together as husband and wife”). You see that statement right there is one of the reasons their relationship seemed questionable. Why must we know all of these details? It’s one thing to have papers filed, it is another altogether for the public to know. Do you recall knowing details about the sexual relationship of other celebrity couples who have broken up? Do you care? And for the record, I think Nas and Kelis’ split is getting pretty petty too (but their mess is more about finances so that’s another story).
But money was at the heart of yesterday’s court filings too. It is perfectly fair and reasonable that Tameka would ask for support. But that normal act is clouded because comes on the heels of her infamous Twitter faux pas (in which she sent a public message to Star Jones seeking a legal referral that was meant to be private). Then there is Tameka’s constant assertion that she has been a ‘good wife and mother’. Why is there a need to remind us of that over and over? Is he saying that she wasn’t? Could there actually be something we don’t know? Or is it just that Usher’s soon-to-be ex is simply trying to salvage her damaged reputation? In any case it seems to be backfiring so she might want to start.
The losers in all this seem to be Tameka’s children, especially the older ones. It can’t be easy to see your mother discussed, dissected and labelled so publicly time after time. In fact, it sucks. So perhaps Tameka should consider taking the private route about the end of her very public romance. And in so doing, she might just earn some respect.
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July 5th, 2009 at 8:31 pm
I’m just happy they’re breaking up. It was a terrible match.
July 11th, 2009 at 3:14 pm
A very mature approach to the topic. I would’ve been more ignorant about it lol. But you’re right; Tameka needs to bow out gracefully and privately for the sake of the children.