We thought that we might get some answers yesterday on what really happened between Chris Brown and Rihanna on the night before the Grammy Awards. But we’ll have to wait yet another month for that (at the very least.) Sure Brown showed up at the appointed time but TMZ reported that his court appearance was over in 4 minutes and 20 seconds—just long enough to get a one month delay. Plus he didn’t even enter a plea. Rihanna wasn’t there (no surprise) but was it disheartening to hear that although an Emergency Order of Protection was issued in the wake of the incident, her lawyer stated that she had no Protection Order in place now. Yeah, I know they are back together (engaged or even married according to some reports) but it is still sobering to watch this turn of events. It’s also quite sad.
I find this all quite unsettling because reading the police affadavit of the alleged assault makes things pretty plain and gives Brown no good reason to smile. But he has been anyway. If the reports are to be believed, this was a beat down of horrendous proportions which got worse when Brown thought Rihanna had called police. And apparently, there are photos far worse than the one we’ve all seen. Still Brown doesn’t look scared, instead he seems to be taking a page out of the R. Kelly playbook: stall at all costs and neutralize any damage that can be caused by the supposed victim.
But what is even sadder is as this story continues to be fodder for every gossip medium around, a lot of young black girls who are Chris Brown fans continue to come down firmly on his side. And Rihanna has sent them a signal, if she has indeed reconciled with him, that all a man has to do is apologize and everything is fine. I am not blaming these young girls because grown women are sometimes just as bad. Some of us are more interested in the star than his alleged crime. Or think that sometimes women “deserve” it. Remember the sisters who chanted “Free R. Kelly” at the courthouse? Or those die-hard Michael Jackson fans during his trial? Then there were those sisters who clapped when Sanaa Lathan’s character got slapped so hard she flipped over the counter in “The Family That Preys” (I am still not sure why Tyler Perry did that).
So I am bringing this up to say that we need to be clear where we stand on the issue of domestic violence and other crimes against women and girls. If we’re unclear, so are our daughters.
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March 10th, 2009 at 2:13 pm
I generally agree with what has been stated in your article, Corynne. However, one thing I think is generally being over shadowed, is that Chris Brown has a serious problem. It seems as though, Chris Brown is being let “off-the-hook”, while people pity, and even worse, criticize Rihanna. Let’s never forget, Rihanna is the VICTIM here. I think people should focus more on the fact that Chris Brown has a serious problem, and men (and very rarely women), that are currently abusers, or have been the abusers in the past, should look at this situation in relation to their own lives. I hope this story will help facilitate the discussion on domestic violence, with a specific focus on the abusers. While the victims are undoubtebly suffering, it’s the abusers who are often let off the hook, it happens entirely too often, and needs to stop.
March 10th, 2009 at 2:21 pm
Rachel, I totally agree that Chris Brown has a problem. I don’t think a duet or a reconciliation should get him off the hook. But although Rihanna is definitely a victim she has made a possible scary choice if she stays with this man. And she isn’t the only victim that has chosen that route either. I just hope that in time she decides that love doesn’t equal bodily harm.
March 12th, 2009 at 6:18 am
I find it amazing that people still find it so easy to judge others. No one was there to say anything about the situation. To Rachel, statistically men get beaten more than women. Women report it more than men because men are more embarrassed by this than women. I have done countless research and reports on this sort of thing to know. Anyway, I think that the public should have made examples out of the older celebrities that beat their spouses and then maybe we wouldn’t have this situation going on now. I find it funny who the media, so-called justice system, and the public pick and choose who should and should not pay for the things that they have done when they all should. Hey that’s just me. All I can say for both is may God be with them.
April 3rd, 2009 at 4:07 pm
I can’t say I blame his method of control with this. I’m sure he has a team of “image consultants” to help him along. I can rarely, if ever condone, the abuse of women, especially our black women who seem to get be abused more than others. My grandma told me if I ever hit a woman, she’d disown me. I rather walk away from any situation than loose my grandma dukes.
April 9th, 2009 at 9:29 am
you is full of it u did that to her i would just lelf he standing out there the middle of no where and just have went what i have to do but chirs i like you cause i think you a great person even if you did do that to her i sorry about everything that happen to you and they said what happen i going to be a great singer. love u always
April 9th, 2009 at 9:32 am
Hey Chris i sorry about every thing that happen to u i still going to listine to your musce no matter what they say and i think u did right they put it all on u.
April 9th, 2009 at 9:36 am
hey chris you cute and all but as your fan i still think you should nerve did it cause you had new u was going to get into lots of trouble and i love u bey bey and i do love to here you sing and i love to sing with u
April 21st, 2009 at 8:13 pm
i Personally think rihanna ddeserved it because if chris was a female and she hit her and snatched her keys out of the car and threw them out of the window i would of punched her in the face too. Chris is a man in this siatuation and the media does NOT see every thing he sees for all we know Rihanna could of been pushing him to beat her ass at home or something then one day he finally snapped and beat the fuck out of her. However if this is not Rihanna’s fault, which i doubt, then Chris sexy self should suffer the consiquences and Rihanna should own up to what she did and he should own up to what he did.
April 26th, 2009 at 3:41 pm
im no longer a fan of that bastard chris brown hes not taking his responsibility for what he did. we all seen the pictures no matter if she did start this he really beat her ass bad. i think different because i now have a daughter and i would just go crazy if someone did that to my daughter all u people ignorant people that are saying she made him do that what if that was your very own daughter awhat would u people out there do that is still supporting this woman beater named chris brown. jus ask yourself what would u do.
April 26th, 2009 at 3:45 pm
brianna i think your a dumb ass you will probaly get your ass beat for being stupid what if that was your daughter would u say the same thing im no longer supporting this woman beater i hope he gets whats coming to him
April 26th, 2009 at 3:50 pm
I will no longer be supporting this ass hole woman beater he says in the press that he got beating on women from his step no your a grown man now u make your own choices and decisions in life every ignorant person that says she deserve is u guys are ignorant and dumb what if that was your very own daughter would u say the same thing i think she deserveit its not right .chris brown is truly a woman beater he wil kile her if she goes back with him.
April 27th, 2009 at 5:33 pm
i would never date him again an i would have said for get him an went out with like ti or something
May 28th, 2009 at 9:49 pm
I hate u chris browmn your a loser u shouldve got your ass beat if you did that to me my brother would be after you your a jackass i hate you i hope you never sell another album i hate chris brown WOMAN BEATER your nothing and u r a monster your gonna run into the wrong person one day and what goes sround come right back lose WOMAN BEATER.
May 28th, 2009 at 9:53 pm
Woman Beater abuser loser Woman Beater just bcause your step father did it dont give u an excuse loser ihate chris brown asshole womanizer someone might do that to your little girl one day how would u like it woman beater to all your weakass suppoters they suck they should ask themselves that what if that was my babygirl i have one so i know what i would do.