When we say we’re committed to someone what does that mean? For most of us, we believe that once we enter into a commitment, a promise is made that requires follow-through on an agreement between two people. Once we establish this agreement, we can plan our future based upon this certainty. We take the “sweet whisperings” of love and all of its hopeful promises and attach it to some future fantasy that has yet to happen. But, the expectation that someone else’s emotions, beliefs or behaviors will remain unchanged is unrealistic at best. Read the full story

My mom always dreamt of a big wedding for me. But, never in her wildest dreams did she think things would turn out the way they did. I have always had issues with commitment. They stemmed from watching how my parents interacted with each other —my father was mean, spiteful and unfaithful. Although my mom tried to hide this from me, I always saw through everyone’s façade. My father’s infidelities taught me a debilitating lesson—the only person I could trust was myself and no one else. Observing him was a great tutorial on human behavior and I credit him with my amazing ability to dissect people as quickly as within the first five minutes of meeting them. My instincts have yet to be wrong. Read the full story