Recently in a meeting, someone said that married couples who meet at work are the least likely to divorce. Citing factors such as similar educational and professional backgrounds, work conditions, and like temperament, these couples are reportedly less likely to divorce than other couples. While there probably is some truth to this theory, I think shared experiences that are often dramatic, exciting, tragic, or exhilarating in nature also play a role in longer lasting marriages.
I’m not talking about the Jazmine Sullivan “bust your windows out your car” or an Angela Bassett garage sell/torch celebration, but real life experiences that require couples to lean on each other. Whether it’s taking care of one’s spouse during a serious injury or illness, comforting your mate during a parent’s death or supporting your wife as she relocates for her job – these are the type of experiences that make a marriage and contribute to marital bliss and longevity.
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December 30th, 2008 at 11:03 pm
Where’s the rest of the story?
I have my beliefs, but I don’t want to comment until I read what someone else has to say
January 2nd, 2009 at 2:32 am
I think everyone better start learning to get along and learn to live with each other or there will be no more world to live in. Make friends online and all around the world .
January 6th, 2009 at 6:04 pm
I was drawn to this post as a single woman in hopes to find the answer. But just judging from having relationships with friends, i would say trust and communications. I think those are key in a marriage since, your spouse is supposed to be your best friend first before anything else.
January 6th, 2009 at 7:50 pm
What’s the purpose for being married?
January 26th, 2009 at 6:52 pm
I do agree with this idea. I am not married; however, I am one half of a committed relationship of which marriage will undoubtedly be the result. In the last year, we have gone through a myriad of wonderful moments as well as crazy drama that most wouldn’t even believe. Through my man losing his job, confessing an ongoing infidelity AND the impending birth of a son with one of the mothers of his two kids, through death threats and insulting phone calls from said deranged baby mama, I have stood by my man and have not judged or demeaned him. These trials and tribulations have only made me want to take even better care of him, and reinforced my love for him. I have seen his raw humanity, and need, and emotion, and regret for hurting me. I do still feel remnants of pain and anger sometimes, but if it weren’t for the hard times, neither of us would really know what we were made of. We’re only human. We do make mistakes, give in to temptation. But it takes more than just love to hold a relationship together…you can tell someone you love them all you want to, but when it gets hard to go on, will you really fight and put in work to keep the relationship afloat?
January 26th, 2009 at 11:18 pm
Huh
July 29th, 2009 at 11:28 am
Okay, I am a young 27 year old happily married African American Women to a wonderful young 27 year old African American Man. I have been married now for 2 years and I’m still on cloud 100…LOL!. I would like to say prior to marriage, we dated each other for 2 months; 2 months before my husband proposed, and we were married a year later. I actually new him in high school, but we were just friends only. The first thing to a happy marriage is, please women don’t take things seriously. Your husband will not clean as good as you, he will sometimes leave his shoes in the middle of floor with his clothes, but that’s your husband/ your bestfriend, pick it up and keep on moving. TRUST is number one for me without trust, we have nothing. For Veronique, I give you alot of respect for standing by your Man side, but there is a thin line. Cheating is unacceptable, but if you still have trust for this man,, then I wish you blissful happiness, but if you find yourself, asking questions ” where are you?”, ” where you going?” and much more, you need to re-think your decision making. Lela, you are so correct, communication and honesty is everything, but always place GOD first. And for Ulysses, WOW! what’s the purpose of being married? Well marriage is a choice, it’s a choice to love another and spend the rest of your life with this person. It’s a commitment placed within self and to GOD. To answer your question ” read the whole book of Corinthians in the bible, don’t miss a word”. Marriage is wonderful, my parents have been married for 34 years, this year. Yes, they had there ups and downs but through it all, always remember COMPRIMISE, TRUST, COMMUNICATION, ALONE TIME, LOVE and INTIMACY. I wish you all love and lifetime happiness.